How to get the best out of your buzzing friend!

Vibrators can be used by anyone, but are especially popular amongst women. Using a vibrator on the clitoris is the easiest way for most women to reach orgasm. Here are some basic tips for getting the most out of your vibrator:

• If you feel comfortable making a little noise, then you'll probably find that letting yourself moan or sigh on your exhalations will improve the whole experience. Moving or rocking your hips rhythmically, in time with your breathing, can also make a big difference.

• If the vibrations are the right speed for you but seem too intense, then you might try either draping a thin cloth between your clitoris and the vibrator or else leaving a light article of clothing on. You can also try moving the vibrator to the side of your clitoris rather than keeping your vibrator directly on it.

• Just to see whether you prefer this sensation, try using lighter pressure but moving the head of the vibrator on your clitoris, rather than keeping it stationary and using heavy pressure.

The next level

For those who want to take things to the next level, here are some advanced vibrator tips:

• If you're already comfortable moving your hips in time with your breathing, then try squeezing and relaxing your "PC" muscle (the same muscle you squeeze to stop the flow of urine when you're urinating) in time with your pelvic movements.

• Many women find that clitoral orgasms feel especially good when accompanied by a little penetration.

• Some women find they can have multiple clitoral orgasms with their vibrator. The secret is to back off on the pressure, keep the vibrator moving, and avoiding direct contact with your clitoris until the energy builds up again.

Men and vibrators

Men can enjoy vibrators too. For men with female partners, one obvious approach is for her to use a vibrator on her clitoris during intercourse with him; the vibrations will also diffuse into his penis, a sensation which some men really like.

Men can also enjoy vibrators without a partner, this is a fundamentally different experience than masturbating with your hand, as (chances are) your penis will be semi-hard through much or all of the experience rather than fully erect. However, especially if you do the rhythmic breathing and pelvis rocking and PC muscle contractions, you may find that you like the sensation a lot. Some men find they can reach pleasurable orgasms with a vibrator without ever having a full erection.